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End Zone Emotions: Navigating Workplace Boundaries Like a Pro

February 13, 2024February 13, 2024anastasiardh

Grab your metaphorical cleats! Let’s explore the topic of emotional agility in the workplace and how it relates to the concept of workplace boundaries. We’ll focus on a recent outburst by Travis Kelce on the football field and how it can help us understand emotional boundaries in professional settings. Together, we’ll dive deep into the playbook for handling workplace emotions like seasoned pros and discuss key takeaways to help you navigate emotional situations while maintaining healthy boundaries.

Takeaway 1: The Passion Play

While raw emotion may fuel the Super Bowl, finesse is key in the workplace. Passion is a powerful driver of innovation when harnessed in a constructive manner that respects workplace boundaries. Instead of charging headlong into challenges, try using assertiveness and empathy to tackle workplace issues while also being mindful of the boundaries of your colleagues and workplace. It’s important to communicate your enthusiasm without crossing the line. Try opening the playbook with phrases like, “I’m excited about this project because…” to convey your passion positively and professionally.

Takeaway 2: Emotional Timeouts

In the heat of the moment, losing sight of emotional regulation and professional boundaries can be easy. Calling a timeout before your emotions get the best of you and cause you to overstep boundaries is essential. Take a breather, regroup, and propose a brief recess in the discussion if necessary. You will not only prevent emotional fumbles or outbursts but also preserve the integrity of the team dynamic and maintain healthy workplace boundaries.

Takeaway 3: Sideline Diplomacy

When faced with emotional tension from a colleague, it’s essential to play defense with diplomacy while also respecting workplace boundaries. Instead of meeting aggression with aggression, intercept the tension with empathy. Try saying, “I understand this is important to you. Let’s work together to find common ground while respecting the boundaries of our colleagues and workplace.” This defensive strategy fosters collaboration and prevents unnecessary workplace friction while maintaining healthy boundaries.

Takeaway 4: Post-Game Reflection

As the dust settles, reflecting on your emotional performance and how it relates to workplace boundaries is important. Consider how your actions impacted team morale and productivity while being mindful of any boundaries you may have overstepped. If your emotions led to penalties, don’t hesitate to issue a workplace apology acknowledging the importance of workplace boundaries. Say, “I recognize that my behavior may have overshadowed our objectives and overstepped some boundaries. Let’s regroup and move forward positively while mindful of our boundaries.” This gesture not only demonstrates accountability but also strengthens team cohesion and reinforces the importance of workplace boundaries.

Emotional intelligence is the key to success in high-stakes business environments, but respect for workplace boundaries must temper it. While Travis Kelce may dominate the football field with his fiery passion, in the realm of professionalism, emotional finesse, and a respect for boundaries wins championships. By staying focused, respecting the boundaries of our colleagues and workplace, and maintaining unwavering integrity, we can elevate the workplace playing field to new heights of excellence.

Quiet Quitting: An Unhealthy Work Trend

September 1, 2022anastasiardh

Quiet quitting has become a trend, stemming from a viral Tik Tok video, which describes it as “not outright quitting your job, but quitting the idea of going above and beyond.” The quest for work-life balance is led mainly by Millenials and Gen Z, who will make up just over 30% of the workforce by 2030. The question is, is this a template for success or stress?

1) Examples of “quiet quitting”

*Saying no to extra tasks outside of your job description.

Not volunteering for work-related events
Logging off at 5 pm and leaving unfinished tasks until the following day, rather than working after-hours.
Avoid answering calls and emails from your boss or clients after hours.
Not arriving to work early.
Not answering emails or phone calls if you’re sick or on leave
Using your email signature to state your working hours clearly

Some of these are healthy, and some are unrealistic. Being able to recognize the difference is the key to your success. The truth is, work is work. There will be an ebb and flow in this quest for the holy grail: “work-life balance.”

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2) The Stress In Quiet Quitting

Quiet quitting is passive and often a mistaken identity for healthy boundaries. It can dull your personal and professional growth skills, like problem-solving, compromise, connection, communication, teamwork, resilience, feeling valued, or purpose-filled.

When thinking this is a successful template for your future career path, be mindful that this may contribute to physical, emotional, and financial stress.

Finally, it hurts you when your employer feels you have disengaged, placing you at risk of a demotion or getting let go.

3) Better Burnout Solutions

Healthy boundaries are not quiet. Proactively designed for clear & kind communication, they validate your beliefs to others, accompanied by a mutual understanding which has consequences.

Setting healthy boundaries starts with recognizing the added tasks in your workplace that contribute to burnout. Hint, sometimes the culprit may be found within your personal life too.

Think of a stop light, red, yellow, and green. List each area where you feel a lack of connection or sense of purpose with the organization’s core message. Being overlooked for a promotion, working in a toxic environment, or an environment deficient in diversity or inclusion are examples.

Now, note the following: How often does it happen? Daily, weekly, monthly?

Then ask yourself if you have clearly and kindly communicated your boundaries in three areas: Time, staying late or answering emails after hours; Emotions, do you feel unappreciated, overlooked, or frustrated; Energy, do you have resources to recharge offered to you?

Pay attention to the areas you would mark as red or yellow. Like a stop light, red equals deal breakers; yellow is a flexible zone, and green is a go!

Focus on the yellow. Yellow selections hold promise. It is your opportunity to ask for help with your time, emotions, and energy. Share why you feel burned out and seek resources to help you. For example, mindfulness apps like Headspace have a fee. Are you going through a tough time emotionally? Ask for resources that will be helpful, from grief counseling to daycare, caregiving for aging parents, divorce, financial counseling, etc. Every situation can promote disconnection, stress, anger, sadness, and frustration in your workplace. Every situation is an opportunity to improve.

The green selections are where you are at your best. You are purpose-driven and filled. You are setting yourself up for advancements and, yes, more money! You are in a space to give extra in your workplace without settling for getting by. The goal is to transform your yellow to green and go, go, go in the right direction.

Work-life balance is an illusion. The times in your life when everything is perfectly balanced will be very few. Aim for work-life wellness. Setting and communicating healthy boundaries will be your compass. You know you’ve reached that destination when your time is respected. Emotionally, you feel valued, connected, and purpose-filled, and you have access to the resources to recharge your energy.

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Anastasia

Summer Heat Can Burn Dogs Feet

August 12, 2022anastasiardh

Excessive, extreme, and extra may describe this relentless summer heat. You aren’t alone if you don’t ever remember summers being so hot. This year is the 5th warmest year on record. Our pets feel it, too, and this heat is burning their feet. Today, we’ll discuss safe times and temps to walk your dog, what surfaces to avoid, and how you can protect your pet’s paw pads.

1) What temperature places our dog’s paw pads at risk of burning?

Around 76-77F is the temperature that places your dog’s paw pads at risk for burning. It only takes 60 seconds to burn a dog’s paw pads.

Ground heat is hotter than the air temperature.

Before you walk, always check the heat index on your phone’s weather app. It will show you the temperature, yet, scroll down and view “what it feels like.” That is the heat index. This guide gives you an idea of how long you can walk your dog and where you can go to walk them safely. Keep in mind that heat exhaustion and heat stroke are additional dangers to your pet’s health when walking them.

Paw pads aren’t just cute; they provide balance, stability, traction, and shock absorption for joints and bones. They have sweat glands that help to regulate body temperature. As unique as paw pads are, they are not burn-resistant.

2) We know that asphalt and concrete surfaces can be too hot; what other surfaces heat up quickly?

Sandy beaches, sunny docks, decks, piers, artificial grass, a truck bed or boat floor, tennis courts, and brick or metal walkways are surfaces that can retain extreme heat from the sun and burn your dog’s feet.

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3) What are some safe options we can do to protect our dog’s feet from the heat?

Do you know that phrase, “got it made in the shade”? Make it your mantra when the heat is extreme. You may have to rethink your walking route according to the time of day and where you live. Early morning walks are best. If your pet needs a potty break during the day’s heat, take the 7-second test. Place your hand on the concrete or asphalt for 7 seconds. If it is too hot, take your dog for a walk on natural grass or choose a shaded route.

Booties or socks are a great option to protect your dog’s paw pads. Our husky, Special Agent Gibbs, is trained to walk with socks on sidewalks and hiking booties when we walk or hike nature trails. The only thing to pay attention to is the dewclaw on their front leg. It must be inside the bootie or sock to avoid getting injured or irritated.

Paw protection balm or wax is another way to help keep paw pads healthy. Easy to place on the paw pad and rub in and can help prevent cracking or dryness.

Summer days may be longer, yet our dogs’ walks must be shorter. Walking early and late definitely helps to beat the heat. Prevention is the solution to keep your dog healthy, happy, and safe.

This summer, it’s time for pet parents to be on paw patrol!

How To Help Ukraine People And Pets

March 19, 2022anastasiardh

Gibbs is helping me do our research before we donate!

Every day we see the courageous stories of the people in Ukraine. Millions are either fleeing or fighting for their freedom. Many of us want to do something, yet uncertain where to start or who to trust. Here are some unique ways to give with confidence to help provide shelter, food, medicine for the Ukrainian people and their pets.

Top four questions to ask a charity before you donate.

1) How much of your donation will go to provide relief?
2) What is the charity’s experience with disaster relief?
3) Is that charity established in Ukraine? Are they working with “Partners,” and who are they?
4) Are they transparent with their financial health? Are they accountable and sustainable?

Once you decide which nonprofit has your heart, be smart with your money and avoid scam artists.

Here are four ways to avoid scams;

1) Independently go to that nonprofit website to donate to confirm your money went to the right place. I like to follow them on social media to get a sense of who they are and how they are working to help both people and animals.
2) No gift cards.
3) No wire transfers
4) Use a credit card as they have protective services.

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Now that you have a strategy to help, what are some unique ways that you can help?
To provide shelter or temporary housing, you may consider checking out Airbnb.
To help pet shelters and zoos, you may want to check out these two articles, Today and Daily Paws.
I’ve created a FREE PDF with these resources and more.

Finally, did you know that giving has health benefits? Giving fosters our social connection reduces our stress, and releases endorphins that promote tranquility and peace. Peace is the ultimate goal for everyone.

Pet Holiday Travel Tips

December 17, 2021anastasiardh

More and more people have been traveling with their pets since the pandemic. The Holiday season is no different. Travel during the holidays can be stressful enough with traffic, delays, or finding a place to stay. Here are tips to keep our pets safe, healthy, and happy when traveling with them.

Safety
Download vaccination records on your phone.
Call your veterinarian and ask them to email you your pet’s vaccination records. It’s good to have this with you if you need it, especially when traveling.

Pet ID
Even if your pet is microchipped, it is helpful to have an ID on their collar. If they get lost, the general public will know that your pet is not a stray one and can help it locate its humans quicker.
Here is what to look for with ID. Up to date with current, accurate information? Is the engraving or writing legible and easy to see? Does the tag show wear and tear? Is the tag securely in place on my pet’s collar? You are looking for durability. Features like aesthetics and tech are available for those who seek to add to the primary pet ID. The most important thing is to make sure the tag fits your dog’s lifestyle … dangle verse slide on.

Avoid retractable leashes.
They can be dangerous for your pet and others. It’s tough to have control over your pet. Once your pet is curious and off to explore, the leash can drop out of your hands or pull you, causing you to drop your phone, harm your arm, shoulder, fall. Dogs, people, kids can trip or get tangled, causing rope burns, trips, or falls. Dogs can chase something into traffic or get in the space of another dog that isn’t as friendly; it’s harder to reign the dog back. Here is the solution. Get a standard six ft. leash when walking in the city, hotels, going out to restaurants, etc.

Retractable leashes do not teach good behavior for pets or their humans. It only takes a moment for someone to trip, fall, etc. Pet owners can prevent potential injury to their pet, themselves, and others by using a standard six foot leash.
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Healthy
Always travel with a dog water bottle for on-the-go hydration. Hydration is just as crucial for our pets as it is for humans. I personally use this dog water bottle because it will not leak and I can place Gibbs’ food or treats in the top without unpacking his food bowls. Bring healthy snacks and food. Once you get to your destination, please do not leave dog food in the car. Even if you are traveling to multiple destinations. Take it all inside with you. It can spoil, making your dog sick. Finally, pack body and paw wipes to keep paws clean from dirt, pollen, mud, etc.
Happy The best way to keep your pet happy when traveling over the Holidays is this; keep their daily routine, feeding times, bedtimes, potty times, socialize with them. Be considerate of others when traveling—people in hotels, hotel elevators, restaurants. Visit pet travel sites like Bring Fido or Find Blue Dog for places to go with your pet near your destination. Remember, you aren’t the only one who may want to escape Holiday chaos!

Which travel tip was most helpful to you?

How to Help Your Dog Beat Summer Heat

July 18, 2021July 29, 2021anastasiardh

The heat is on! It’s on the street! The heat is on! Summer can be a dangerous season for your pet! Some of the most common health dangers include dehydration, heat exhaustion, and burnt paw pads. Here are some ways to keep your dog safe and healthy.

It’s best to exercise your dog earlier in the morning or later at night. If your dog is like mine, he needs a few additional potty breaks! As the temperature & humidity rise, so does the asphalt your dog walks on. Interesting fact, when it is 77F outside, asphalt can be 125F.

It’s not just sidewalks that are dangerous. Surfaces that get hot are boat docks, decks, bike paths, sand on beaches, the floor of a boat, or the back of a truck. Keep this in mind; skin destruction occurs in a fast 60 seconds!

So how do you know if the sidewalk or road is too hot for your dog’s paw pads? Take the 7-second test. I’ll place my hand on the sidewalk for 7 seconds. If it is too hot for me, it is too hot for Gibbs!

Your dog will let you know if their paw pads give them discomfort after a walk or exercise. Look for limping, excessive licking, or blisters following a walk on the pavement.

The first and most important type of gear you will need for your dog is a water bottle. Hydration, hydration, hydration! As NCIS special agent Gibbs says, “Grab your gear!”, you are going to do the very same thing to keep your dog safe during the summer heat. Your dog requires an ounce of water per lb of body weight. When out in the heat, be sure to provide a water stop at least once every 15-20 minutes. Gibbs uses Highwave Auto Dog Mug Leak-Tight Mini. We do have a partnership with them. Make sure to use promo code GIBBS 15. This water bottle won’t waste water like collapsable water trays, it fits easily into our auto cup holder, it won’t leak in my backpack or on me after using it, and it can double for a makeshift food tray when we are not home for dinner time. You know how our dogs can be around dinner time!

The second type of gear to check out for your dog is a cooling vest. Cool technology. Rinse the vest in cool water. If you can, place it in the freezer for about 2-3 minutes. Take it out and put it on your dog. As the water evaporates, it takes the body heat your dog is generating with it. It boosts the cooling by offering the maximum amount of shade and thermal protection. The material has a rating of 50+ UPF protection, which blocks 98% of the sun’s UV rays. Gibbs has the RuffWear cooling vest. I get almost 90 minutes outside for a walk with him wearing this gear. If you are hiking or somewhere that you will be out longer, saturate the vest in water to reactivate the technology.

If walking your dog on grass or surfaces is not possible, the last type of gear to consider is dog booties. Keep in mind that your dog has sweat glands in its paw pads, so don’t keep the booties on for longer than necessary when it’s hot out. You don’t want them to get overheated. Fitting is important. Measure the width of the paw pad accordingly before ordering. I bought Gibbs’ booties at Woof Gang St. Pete.

Finally, it’s crucial to be proactive and recognize if or when your dog is experiencing heat exhaustion. Heat exhaustion happens when your pet’s body temperature rises above a healthy range, and the pet is unable to regulate its body heat.

Signs of heat exhaustion are:
Excessive panting
Confusion or disorientation
Vomiting or diarrhea
Discoloration of tongue and gums

Gibbs goes with us just about everywhere. In the summer, though, that is not always the case. Although I love taking him to restaurants or walking him on the pier in St. Pete, the concrete may be too hot for him. I love how he enjoys walking or playing on sandy beaches or with other dogs at dog bars or events, yet event with the summer gear, mentioned, it could lead to heat exhaustion. I have to know when to say NO for his health and safety. After all, I’m not the one wearing a fur coat in the heat and humidity that always sizzles in the summer.

Dog Mom Day Gift Ideas

May 9, 2021anastasiardh

“Everyone thinks they have the best dog, and none of them are wrong.”
~ Unknown~

Celebrate Dog Mom Day! Being a dog mom is an unconditional loving commitment for many years of your life. So what gifts may a dog mom LOVE that will fit EVERY budget?

Here are five ideas that are great to support our local and independent pet businesses!

1) Dog Grooming Certificate.

Dog grooming can be expensive. Our husky, Gibbs, may not need to go as often as his other fur friends. This time of year is a great time to go as many are shedding their winter coats! Gibbs loves his groomer, Britney, at Woof Gang Bakery & Grooming

2) Doggie Day Care Certificate.

Your hu-mom will love the options of either a half or full-day, a waterpark experience, or a package that combines them all!

In the video above, you will see me playing with my friends in a waterpark at Love My Dog Resort.
The great thing about doggie daycare is it is also a mommy daycare! Our hu-moms get to enjoy a full day to do whatever they want without rushing back home to take us out to potty or wonder if we are getting into “things” from being alone for hours. Playing with friends is healthy for us, and it sure does tire us out. From what I hear, this is considered a bonus.

3) Membership Options.

In my special appearance on Bloom TV, you will see me enjoying the off-leash area at The Dog Bar. Here you can enjoy a yearly membership or a day pass! Bring your laptop or iPad and get some work done while dogs socialize and play in the off-leash area. It’s an awesome place to meet dog lovers! Evenings hold events and fundraisers that always give back to the community.

4) Dog Photographer or Artist.

Who doesn’t love a picture of their bestie? Schedule a session with a photographer specializing in working with pets or seeking out an artist who will create a paw-fect portrait that you will cherish for years!

5) Personalized Candles To Help With Pet Smells.

Yes, I said it. Sometimes, we can be stinky!
Before purchasing any candle, let’s discuss scents, wicks, and wax.
Both cats and dogs are not fond of citrus scents.
Make sure the wick is lead-free too. Did you know that wick’s that contain lead, when burned, could damage your pet’s central nervous system? Yikes! To be safe, always look for cotton wicks.
Get a soy wax or beeswax candle. Parrafin wax is derived from petroleum and has the potential to emit carcinogens when burning.
The picture below is my personalized soy wax candle, complete with a cotton wick. You can find this at Bold Coast Candle Co.

Bonus Idea!

Because dogs require daily exercising, a dog water bottle may be yet another perfect gift!
Walking is one of the most common ways we get our exercise. With summer approaching, it is so vital to keep dogs hydrated! I have been using the AutoDogMug Leak Tight Mini for a few years. It is easy to carry on walks, travel-friendly, BPA free and doesn’t waste water as travel bowls do. I will use it to place my food in it when we are out at a restaurant and give me a drink! After a few years, I’m happy to share that Gibbs has partnered with them! Enjoy the promo code GIBBS15.

Let me know which idea you liked best!

How To Handle Political Posts From A Colleague

January 15, 2021anastasiardh

We’ve all seen it. Political posts that say if you are a part of this party, then I’ll unfriend you. What? What if I don’t share your faith? Do you like me less because I’m not a mom? You get the picture.

When so many work so hard to fight labels, when did it become okay to create labels in other lanes?

I know that some will say, so what? Keep on scrolling. It’s not so easy. What if this is a colleague with whom you collaborate on various projects? Or what if this colleague is someone you consider a mentor? Then what happens when you label a colleague who connects to another colleague and another and another? From what I’ve seen on social media, women struggle more emotionally with these posts than men.

So, how do you handle posts that make you anxious, sad, or stressed?

Pause! I bet you thought I was going to say breathe! I feel that pausing leads us to breathe. Now inhale, exhale, and release the urge to respond. Even if your intentions are good, move on. It may look like you are setting out to prove this colleague wrong with this kind of post. When has that ever been productive?
See the BIG picture. Ask yourself the following questions. Is this the person that you know? Do you believe they think you are who they refer to in their post? How would they treat you if they ran into you on the street or at a conference? Friendly? Have you collaborated with them in the past? How was that experience for you? What impact may their posts have on future collaborations with you? With this information, you now get to decide if you will sit out a few and collaborate at another time.
Words matter. Know the risks of posting political opinions. It creates division, labels, judgment, and risks. A good colleague of mine, who was also a sponsor, once enlightened me about a little thing called optics. Optics are risks. What’s the risk with political posts? Losing existing or new clients, sponsors, and colleagues, you collaborate on projects with friends and family.
Set healthy boundaries for your energy. Seeing judgemental posts give off a bad vibe, and for many women, it can wreck your morning! Don’t match that energy! Stay focused, and harness your exuberance!

That liveliness introduces you to your next comment, client call, zoom meeting, email, etc. Think of it as a part of your image!

Your energy is your most significant currency, so spend it wisely!

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Anastasia

The Quickest And Easiest Way To Reduce Stress, Save Time, And Be Kind

October 7, 2020October 9, 2020anastasiardh

How much time do we spend on social media per day? Average users spend 2 hours and 24 minutes a day! That works out to approximately 16 hours per week, which could be considered a part-time job that you are not getting paid for! Makes you smack your head, right?

SAVE 14 hours each week, REDUCE stress & SHOW acts of kindness by setting healthy boundaries with your time on social media! Yes you can!

If you have visited my website lately, the healthy boundaries checklist will ask you which boundary you struggle with most? Is it time, emotions, or energy? Get your FREE checklist here! I have had several comments on setting healthy boundaries with time, so let’s do this!

In 15 minutes, you can show acts of kindness and get your social media fix! First, set your timer on your phone for 2 minutes. Write down who you have not checked in with, someone you know lost a loved one, etc. Second, set the timer for 3 minutes. DM those friends sharing a kind word or encouragement. Third, set the timer for 10 minutes. Intentionally go onto social platform feed or groups. Seek out friends to engage with to nurture the relationship. Emotionally charged engagement holds no value to you and will steal your time.

After a few weeks, you will notice that you can accomplish your 2-minute goal in 1 minute. You will complete your act of kindness time in 2 minutes. You now have two bonus minutes! Let’s discuss how to best maximize your 10 minutes on social. Select 1 or 2 groups per day and place that in your daily calendar. Look at your feed to engage, network, post, or be empowered. What can you do with a bonus of 2 minutes that you saved earlier? Whatever you like!

I’d love to know if this helped you to save time, reduce stress & share more kindness each week!

Anastasia

How To Reduce Screen Time & Set Healthy Boundaries

September 23, 2020anastasiardh

The Social Dilemma documentary on Netflix inspired this week’s video. It is mind-boggling to learn how we ARE the product! It now makes sense to me when my husky, Gibbs, shows his intervention skills! 🙂

I’ll show you how to reduce your screen time on selected social platforms & how to set healthy boundaries for your time, emotions & energy in 10 steps.

Step 1.

Swipe to the right and scroll down until you see Screen Time. You can also access it by going to Settings.

Step 2.

Click on it to view your daily average. Scroll down to decide whether you want to share this on all of your devices.

Step 3.

Scroll back up, just a little until you locate See All Activity. Click on that.

Look at the time that you have spent on your phone and notice what you accomplished. You will now see how much time you spend in the following categories, like networking, researching, or creating.

Step 4.

Scroll down to Pickups. This statistic shows you how often you pick up your phone AND which apps you use first after picking it up! Now you can recognize it is time to set healthy boundaries from social platforms.

Step 5.

Scroll to find the social media platform you want to set healthier boundaries for your time, emotions, and energy. For this example, I’ve chosen to show you how to do this for Facebook app. Select Facebook and click on it.

Step 6.

You will see your daily average on this platform. Scroll to the bottom to select Add Limit.

Step 7.

Choose the amount of time you want to spend on each social media platform.

Step 8.

Want more healthy boundaries? Select Customize Days. Every day of the week, you get to select how much time to spend on that particular app.

Step 9.

You will receive a notification 5 minutes before the time limit. Kind of like when our parents did with us when we were kids, right? Here though, you will get to choose to ignore the time limit, add a minute or add 15 minutes.

Step 10.

If seeing notifications is your trigger to pick up your phone, then stop them! Badges are the red dots on top of the icons. There is no need for them on your social apps. It will only take control of your time. What works for me are temporary banners.

I’m clearly not opposed to social media. It has become invasive in 3 areas, my time, emotions, and energy. Setting healthy & realistic boundaries on social platforms has allowed me to be fully present in my life. I deserve that and so do those with whom I spend time with.

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