How To Reduce Screen Time & Set Healthy Boundaries

The Social Dilemma documentary on Netflix inspired this week’s video. It is mind-boggling to learn how we ARE the product! It now makes sense to me when my husky, Gibbs, shows his intervention skills! 🙂 

I’ll show you how to reduce your screen time on selected social platforms & how to set healthy boundaries for your time, emotions & energy in 10 steps. 

Step 1. 

Swipe to the right and scroll down until you see Screen Time. You can also access it by going to Settings. 

Step 2.

Click on it to view your daily average. Scroll down to decide whether you want to share this on all of your devices. 

Step 3. 

Scroll back up, just a little until you locate See All Activity. Click on that. 

Look at the time that you have spent on your phone and notice what you accomplished. You will now see how much time you spend in the following categories, like networking, researching, or creating. 

Step 4.

Scroll down to Pickups. This statistic shows you how often you pick up your phone AND which apps you use first after picking it up! Now you can recognize it is time to set healthy boundaries from social platforms. 

Step 5.

Scroll to find the social media platform you want to set healthier boundaries for your time, emotions, and energy. For this example, I’ve chosen to show you how to do this for Facebook app. Select Facebook and click on it. 

Step 6.

You will see your daily average on this platform. Scroll to the bottom to select Add Limit. 

Step 7.

Choose the amount of time you want to spend on each social media platform. 

Step 8.

Want more healthy boundaries? Select Customize Days. Every day of the week, you get to select how much time to spend on that particular app. 

Step 9.

You will receive a notification 5 minutes before the time limit. Kind of like when our parents did with us when we were kids, right? Here though, you will get to choose to ignore the time limit, add a minute or add 15 minutes.

Step 10.

If seeing notifications is your trigger to pick up your phone, then stop them!  Badges are the red dots on top of the icons. There is no need for them on your social apps. It will only take control of your time. What works for me are temporary banners. 

I’m clearly not opposed to social media. It has become invasive in 3 areas, my time, emotions, and energy. Setting healthy & realistic boundaries on social platforms has allowed me to be fully present in my life. I deserve that and so do those with whom I spend time with. 

Love to know your thoughts and if this was valuable to you!

How To Support Employees In Small Biz When Customers Refuse To Wear A Mask

Stay calm and mask on! Many small businesses from restaurants, coffee shops, art galleries to dental practices are implementing safety policies and being assaulted for it. This is about ALL of us and who we serve. Employees will be the ones who will feel the heat, This will impact their emotions, energy, and productivity.

Get FIVE tips to handle customers and support your employees.

1. Inform those who you serve on social media, your website, have resources available so people who question your policy can view in real-time what is recommended per state and counties. Have colorful and simple signs (fewer the better ) to place onsite and with your marketing messages. Get some videos uploaded to show what to expect. YOU are placing healthy boundaries for the HEALTH of ALL!

2. Give masks away for free! Unite with those in your communities who are making hand sanitizers and give those away. No mask? No problem! We’ve got one for you!

3. Support employees who will be bearing the brunt of verbal or physical assault. Think of it like cool downtime. I like to say it is a self-care wellness check! (HINT: I talk about this in my upcoming ebook) Employees must decompress from stress! Check out these apps for your employees SuperBetter At Work, Happify, and TalkSpace.

4. Collaborate on a backup plan with your employees on what services or products can be contact-free. Maybe it is an online catalog, order food online, curbside service for coffee to Invisalign trays, etc.

5. Set the boundary where disrespect is not tolerated. You are a small business so you can choose how to convey this message. Have a sign No Mask No Service. I’d prefer … This Is An Assault Free Zone 🙂

Let me know if these tips were helpful to you in your small business!

Take What You Learn & Make A Difference With It

Anastasia

3 Ways To Set Healthy Boundaries When Social Media Posts Trigger Negativey

Wearing a mask! It is a trending topic on social media that triggers some negativity! Don’t allow these posts to steal from your time, your emotions or your energy! Get 3 ways to set healthy boundaries when you see these posts on social media!

I used to be someone who did not set healthy boundaries. I was really bad at it! The result? Other people ran my life! I rode shotgun! I don’t do that anymore. I learned how to set healthy boundaries with my time, emotions, and energy.

Today I want to challenge you to setting healthy boundaries here … on social media. When you see a video or post regarding wearing a mask you will likely feel frustrated, angry or fearful. What’s the problem with wearing a mask?

After reading hundreds of comments on posts I found 4 common concerns.

1. Safety. Do your part to keep yourself and others safe.

2. They are uncomfortable to wear. I get it! I wore a mask for 25 years when I worked as a clinical dental hygienist!

3. Breathing is difficult.

4. It infringes on my rights.

Viewing or commenting on these posts will most likely trigger a negative emotion, deplete your energy and suck time from your day.

Here are 3 solutions;

1. Don’t respond. Stop, Pause and Scroll. Intentionally go to a person whose posts are positive or humorous. Reset your mind. Me? I go to Gibb’s fan page and check out other dog / pet posts as that makes me happy.

2. Respond to learn than to be right. So if a post states that someone has asthma and they share they can’t breathe wearing a mask, you could share … “I’m doing my part to wear a mask yet I’ve not thought about it that way before, thank you for helping me understand”

3. Delete / Unfriend / Unfollow THIS is total freedom from the bondage of social media stress.

Has this been helpful to you? Let me know! COMMENT or share!

Anastasia

4 Acts Of Kindness That Are FREE + Good For Your Mental Health

How is kindness good for your mental health? It reduces stress and boosts self-esteem! This week I’ll share 4 acts of kindness, that are FREE and who doesn’t like FREE? The impact of these kindness tips will benefit you and those you share them with!

Here are 4 FREE acts of kindness you can do immediately!


1) IM or text a friend you have not contacted in a while. I like to say, I know this is a random text, yet I wanted you to know that you have been in my thoughts and I hope you are staying safe & healthy.

NEXT, amp up that text or IM and send a photo or memory you have and share that this was in your social media feed and it made you smile and hope it lightens up their day too.

Facebook made it easy for you! Go to the sidebar where it says explore. Look for the “memories” option and you are on the fast track to kindness.

FINALLY, send a music link that connects you to that friend, co-worker, etc. For example, every time I hear the song “The Safety Dance” I text or call my BFF since 2 nd grade to share that this song is playing and I’m thinking of her.

2) Give a genuine compliment to those in your space. Partner, child, co-worker, or employer.
My hubby and I share 2 things at the end of the day. First, we will share one thing that we loved about them that day (were they kind to someone in the grocery store, helped an older person, or had patience with you 🙂 ) and second, what they did that we are thankful for that day. It never gets old because each day is different!

You can write on a post-it note words of encouragement or empowerment to a co-worker or employer as we begin to re-enter our workplaces.

3) Join a LOCAL FB group and see how you can be helpful in your community. For example, we had a locally owned pet store that had an opportunity for customers to donate to a local dog food bank to help a local animal shelter.

Other examples are noticing if someone needs help shopping, dropping off or picking up mail, etc.

4) SMILE!! I’m not kidding! Be intentional and genuine! Smile at the grocery store cashier and thank them! Smile at people when you are walking your dog! Smiling is a healthy contagion! Smiling reduces stress and increases your happiness!

Let me know if these tips were helpful!

Till next time,

Take What You Learn & Make A Difference It!